2016 Feb 14
So, yesterday was valentines and ideally many of the love drunk couples should be hung-over from that sweet rush. But deep inside, tactfully hidden within our denial, you and I both know that that definitely isn’t the case for not only some but every person living in this phony modern world. Why? Well, one of the most obvious reasons being that some of us don’t even have a valentine to begin with and the few who do are either too busy trying to aimlessly live up to the stereotyped standards set by society in order to measure the perfect lover or are literally too busy that they couldn’t care less if the 14th of February was valentine’s day or if it was World Meteorological day. The pure and simple purpose of valentines is lost amongst these 3 types of people and they’re all guilty of being at least one type of these valentines yesterday and here’s why we should be neither:
- The ‘we must be the couple of the day’ type
We all know this type. How could we not when they make sure they suffocate our Facebook and Instagram feed with all the cute and personal things they did for each other? For them Valentine’s day is not about showing each other that they love each other but it’s about showing everyone else that they love each other instead. And yes, some do initially begin planning a romantic date with the pure intention of making the other feel special but even they are guaranteed to get caught up in the rat race based on materialistic expectations that they eventually forget why they’re celebrating love on this significant day in the first place. Some of us want to be this type because they crave a relationship filled with pictures and gifts while some of us hate this type because they’ve had enough of their #loveofmylife and #bae posts. However, instead of wasting our energy on drooling over them or wishing you could comment ‘OMG, just shut up’ on each of their pictures we should all focus on maybe trying not impress everyone else but on impressing that special someone. What we fail to realize is that while it is indeed fabulous to get expensive presents and go out for a fancy dinner, all this planning and dolling up is actually taking even more time away from enjoying a quality moment with your loved one. This ritual we all follow on this special day is overpowered with materialistic ideas and naïve intentions which has shown the modern generation that just because you appear to be all awww and cute together that doesn’t mean you’re in love. The show of love is supposed to be genuine so that it actually achieves its purpose and leaves the other all gooey and love struck instead of having to pretend just because they don’t want society to stop in its tracks to pity you and judge you by its ridiculously unreasoned standards. Don’t smile for a Snapchat just so you want everyone to see how head over heels you are, but smile for a snap because you want something to remember this moment by.
- The ‘Ugh, love is so overrated’ type
We all know this type too. While others post pictures with their better half they post pictures of a pizza explaining why it’s so much better than true love. Even though whether a pizza or true love is better than the other is still a very much debatable topic, these type of people focus way too much of their time unnecessarily hating on Valentine’s Day. And no matter how much the modernized superficiality of this extra cheesy day bothers the most pessimistic person out there, even they could enjoy a day to appreciate the sincerity of being in love and being loved. We all value the small moments when someone we care about shows us how much we mean to them and Valentine’s Day not only gives us a special opportunity to do so but also acts as reminder for us to take a moment and spread some overdue affection. So, no matter how miserably single you are or how much you hate this whole exaggerated chocolate and flowers business you could always take Valentine’s Day and make it your own and do something genuine and loving instead of grumpily double tapping on every ‘Valentine’s Day sucks’ posts. It won’t kill to go be as cute as a glorified teddy bear instead of spreading hate on a day that’s supposed to be all about love.
- The ‘too busy for this’ type
Technology and development has taken away many things from us but one thing that we thought it wouldn’t take away was the human touch. Sadly, that’s no longer the case and there is no other day to highlight this better than Valentine’s Day itself. This special day’s main aim is to both literally and figuratively embrace each other. However, here we are holding our phones instead of our loved ones and staring at our TV screen’s instead staring into each other’s eyes. Most of us are too busy to even realize that it’s the 14th of February even though ironically what’s distracting us is some kind of device that’s guaranteed to display the date on its screen. Date night is a mad rush because you have to get back home to finish off some work and even the gift was picked out by your secretary. The meaning of love is slowly being lost and it’s best we hold onto it before it’s lost forever. Nothing lasts forever, not even the latest mission on COD that you’re addicted to, so take your eyes off the screen and kiss her under the moonlight after telling her you love her as much as the countless number of stars in the sky. There’s no point working so hard if you have no one to come home to and enjoy that success with. Therefore, if you can relate and can’t even remember the last time you had a good time and a good laugh with just the both of you with no other distractions around maybe you need to start being a bit more of a sweetheart and so that that hot fire doesn’t die off!
The only type you should be a part of on Valentine’s Day shouldn’t be any sort of ‘type’ at all. It should be a day you make only about your own relationship while making sure you enjoy it to the fullest without any pointless negativity, expectations or distractions ruining the beauty of this day. Valentine’s Day is not about them, me or nobody; it’s about us.
